Practice Love to Perfect Love
Practicing doing simple acts of love, even if they are calculated and planned, gives you the glimpse of Oneness, the space of enlightenment. When you start practicing calculated love more and more, self-doubt, self-hatred and self-denial melts down. The confidence you then develop on you grows and the energy you radiate becomes unconditional love.
Do not deny calculated, conditional love
When love is calculated and conditional, if you deny it, you destroy the possibility for the next level. It is like the leaf of a small plant can't be eaten, but when you wait and allow the tree to grow, the flower and the fruit of the tree will be useful. Similarly, the conditional, calculated and planned love will start in your life, because that is the best way to start relating with life. When it starts, don't deny, destroy and abuse it.
If you think, "If I smile, (s)he also may smile, then I will develop a contact. Tomorrow (s)he may become partner in my business, (s)he may become partner in my life, or (s)he may support me in my venture", whatever you may be planning, that is fine. Flash that smile.