Beyond Love And Hate🔗

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THE SUPREME PONTIFF OF HINDUISM BHAGAWAN SRI NITHYANANDA PARAMASHIVAM

yo na hṛṣyati na dveṣṭi na śocati na kāṅkṣati I śubhāśubhaparityāgi bhaktimānyaḥ sa me priyaḥ

He who does not rejoice or hate or grieve or desire, renounces both good and evil and who is full of devotion, he is dear to Me.

There is no such thing as good and evil. It is all in our mind. When we understand this truth we are in Kṛṣṇa's realm. That's His promise.

He who does not rejoice or hate or who does not grieve or desire, and who renounces both good and evil and who is full of devotion, he is dear to Me. Kṛṣṇa now goes into another level of controlling the mind. He now refers to one who does not love or hate—yo na haṛṣyati na dveṣṭi. He is not talking about not loving anyone. When we love the way we do, with conditionality and expectations, it works well as long as these expectations are fulfilled. When something does not work the way we wish it to, the love disappears like a dewdrop in the sun. In its place, hate appears.

Hatred and love are opposite sides of the same coin as long as love is conditional. Love can flip into hatred in a moment, the moment we feel that our expectations are threatened. In love of this type, there is external rejoicing, sharing of joy and happiness and public expression of happiness as long as the emotion remains.

Often, love or what we believe is love is related to time and space. So long as the distance is large and the time of contact is minimal we see a few defects in those we profess to love. Once we get closer and spend more time, we see the real picture. It can also convert love into hatred. To transcend love and hatred which are two different expressions of the same perceived reality, we need to drop expectations. We need to develop a sense of non-attachment. We need to be complete in our love.

We all go through several stages of relationships in our lifetime. As children, we are totally dependent upon parents. Our parents influence us and our love for our parents is conditional. We love them only because there is no option.

To survive, a child must depend upon its parents. As we grow into adolescence, we question many things we took for granted as an infant or a child; therefore, teenagers rebel. They wish to be independent. They break rules.

In adulthood, we learn that to survive and coexist, we need to follow societal rules and regulations. We develop skills to get along with others. We learn to work and relate with others. Otherwise, we may become misfits in society. The single most important lesson that people learn in adulthood is that it is important to relate with people meaningfully.

As we grow and mature, and the spirit and its development become important, we seek guidance. We look for a Master. With the Master, the relationship is the reverse of what we started with as a child. We are once again concerned about survival, but it is the survival of the spirit and not the mind or body. To help in this survival of the spirit, the relationship that we need with the Master is one of absolute dependence once again, but with a difference. For the relationship to work, it now needs to be totally unconditional and based upon deep trust.

The only relationship that will work with the Master is total and unconditional love out of completion. It is absolute surrender. Surrender transcends love and hate. When one is in a mood of total surrender to the Master or the Divine, both being one and the same, the concept of good and evil, sin and merit disappear.

understand this truth we are in

His realm. That's His promise.

Impress upon the students that one must love all unconditionally without expecting anything in return and with detachment.

• ❖ What is true Love?
• ❖ Is love that is conditional or filled with expectation, true love?
• ❖ Why is a sense of detachment or non-expectation needed for loving with completion?
• ❖ What is love for the Master?
• ❖ What is Surrender?
• ❖ Is there Hell or Heaven, where we go in the afterlife, based on our accumulated good deeds or sins?

MATERIALS NEEDED

An electronic device- iphone, ipad, laptop etc, and internet.

PROCEDURE

Create an online e-card to give a tribute to the Master, using any free online card maker application eg. canva.com, openme.com, smilebox.com etc. Note: If a device is not available, let the child draw a card and scan it later.

INFERENCE

Let us engage with the divine as our child plays and favourite pastime.