Transparency in relationships🔗

Question: should I tell about my wild past to my spouse?

Understand, whatever you are carrying as past is not even your past. It is the past of the immature version of you.

After every year, a matured version of you is taking birth. The past of your immature version is not your past. So understand, when it is not even your past, what is there to talk about with your fiancée or spouse?

People want to know how much they should tell their spouse or fiancée about their wild past. Ask him or her first if they want to know. Can they digest it?

You may want to share about your wild past because you feel that honesty and transparency are important in your relationship. But the other person may be afraid of losing all his romance for you if he comes to know about your wild past! He may be afraid that he cannot accept you if he knows about your wild past.

Most men and women really do not want to know the other person's wild past. If they want to know, they may be enjoying your wild past as pornography! Your revelation of your wild past only has a pornographic effect.