Doing, having and being🔗

Our life revolves around the three functions of doing, having and being. All our life, we are focused on doing more and more, trying to achieve more and more. We try to work harder, learn more, perform better. All our life we are running after something or other. Why are we running like this? Because our goal is having more and more – more wealth, more possessions, more name and fame, more relationships. We have to run so that we can have more than the neighbors, more than our friends and our enemies. All our attention and energy is sucked by doing and having. We never have any time to just be. We have lost touch with our own being.

There is nothing wrong with doing or having – but it cannot be a substitute for being.

Unless you know how to relax into yourself, you will never be free of comparison and jealousy.

You need no improvement!

The very word vishuddhi means 'beyond purity and impurity'.

Understand, you are beyond the concepts of pure and impure!

You don't need to improve yourself in any way.

Why do you compare yourself with others and feel miserable?

When we compare, we always feel that what others have or have achieved is more than what we have, and we start feeling jealous. When we are not able to bear others' excellence, we get jealous.

Jealousy is the fruit of comparison!

Why exactly do we compare ourselves with others?

First, we compare ourselves because we have never understood ourselves. We are not aware of who we are and what we have.

Second, society has conditioned us from our birth to evaluate ourselves based upon others. This process of living by comparison starts right from childhood.

The child learns to judge himself by comparing himself with others.

He knows himself only based on others.

There is no scale to compare

Suppose you were the only person on a new planet, how could you compare yourself with anyone? Could you call yourself tall or short, ugly or beautiful, rich or poor, intelligent or dumb?

No!

Do we ever compare ourselves with flowers or birds or mountains?

Then why do we compare ourselves with other human beings?

Understand, there is no scale to compare you with anybody.

Each individual is unique.

Understand, God is an artist, not an engineer!

If He was an engineer, He would have made one perfect man and one per - fect woman and then made millions of copies from that mould!

No. God has made each one of us unique in every way.

So where is the scale to compare?

Whenever you compare, you create constant conflict either inside or outside.

If somebody laughs, you think he is laughing at you. If somebody is friendly towards another person, you feel lonely and jealous of that person. Actually, you are just waiting for someone to hurt you. The jealousy you allow inside you is like a raw wound. Any action done with no intention to hurt you also touches the wound and hurts.

So when you feel hurt, understand that already you have a wound! Don't throw the responsibility of the suffering on the other person. The wound needs to be healed, the jealousy has to be dissolved. Then nobody can hurt you. Nobody can hurt you without your silent permission.

The other is not responsible

Just by condemning the object of jealousy, you will not be liberated from jealousy itself!

By condemning the object of jealousy, you might be liberated from that particular object of jealousy but you will simply get fixed on another object of jealousy, that's all!

You need to work on the subject, that is you.

You compare yourself to each other because you feel that you are somehow lacking. Understand, you have no idea of your true, unique potential!

You have the potential to live like gods on earth.

Just look in! Experiment, explore and discover the truth for yourself.

The moment you stop comparing, all jealousy disappears.

Instead, you will start feeling contented in yourself and grateful to Existence for having given you so much and for making you unique.

How to get out of jealousy?

The way out of jealousy is not by suppressing it, condemning it or denying its existence.

Unconsciously expressing and encouraging jealousy is obviously not the way either.

Actually, how will you remove jealousy from your life, when it is non-existent?

Jealousy is just like darkness – it has only a negative existence.

Just as darkness is only the absence of light, jealousy is nothing but the ab sence of awareness!

A simple pure awareness in doing, having and being can revolutionize the way you handle jealousy.

Change the doing: Be complete, not perfect

You always work out of the idea that something is lacking in you.

That is why you aim at being better than all others!

When you welcome yourself completely, you work with totality rather than perfection.

When you compare, you only grow to the extent that the other person has grown.

When you work out of your own spontaneous energy and inspiration, you never know to what extent you can grow!

When you are total and authentic in your doing, you express your won high est potential and blossom in the unique way that you are meant to blossom!

Change the having: Identify your true needs

The very nature of the mind is to not be satisfied, not be happy, and not be in the present moment. The mind can only exist either in the past or the future. It cannot exist in the present because you cannot have thoughts in the present moment. So, by its very nature, the mind will chase desires. We have to be aware and see which desires are actually ours and which we have borrowed from others.

When a desire is truly your own, you will always have sufficient energy to ful fil it. When you start picking up desires from others and trying to fulfil them, you feel drained of energy. Not only that, even if you manage to fulfil that desire, it will never bring you real satisfaction – because it was not your desire in the first place!

Change the being: Realize you are unique!

Comparison is the greatest disrespect you can show to yourself!

You always measure yourself by your weakest point, and the ones you envy by their strongest point.

Then you create a conflict inside yourself!

Understand, no matter how much your admire your favorite sports star or film star, can you enjoy even a cup of coffee through their body? When you start longing for other peoples' bodies, you create a gap between yourself and your body.

When you welcome yourself totally, when you are totally at ease with your body, a certain grace will start flowering in you.

The vishuddhi chakra is the source of infinite energy!

Comparison locks your vishuddhi chakra and straightaway drains your energy.

Just by freeing yourself of jealousy, you free up enormous amounts of energy to run and expand your life.