Recognition🔗

• The feeling of craving for recognition is a handicap for an enthusiastic mind.
• ❖ It is only the inability to recognize ourselves which makes us crave for recognition by others.
• If we need to say the truth, for a man who is alert and motivated, outside recognition is not necessary. A person who longs to have recognition from outside cannot remain alert and motivated.

A couple, who had gotten married two years before, came to see me. They had a beautiful child with them. But they were sad. Why sad? I could not understand at first. But after talking with them I could understand the reason for their sadness.

That young couple used to visit their friends' houses often. When they had been to a friend's house, they were shown a newly purchased refrigerator. They asked the couple, 'What brand of refrigerator do you have in your house?' On hearing this question, the couple became sad.

The couple then went to another house and saw a VCD and MP3 players there. Again they got upset. The reason for their sadness was their going to the friends' houses joyfully and comparing their own house with others and becoming sad every time. They were not able to accept and reconcile easily their own status.

Again the reason was due to the shocks they got on seeing the growth and prosperity of others. It is only the act of ours of not being able to accept and recognize ourselves as we are, that makes us crave and wait in anticipation of others' recognition of ourselves.

Many of us must have experienced this. The main reason for us feeling bad is only our comparing ourselves with others and feeling terribly low about ourselves.

J.Krishnamurthy, while once speaking in London, said, 'Don't measure.'

What he said was not about taking measurements of the body, however. He was speaking about people losing their hearts by comparing himself with another.