You attract your life-situations
There is another beautiful story that happened in the life of Buddha:
Once, when Buddha was teaching a group of people, a person in the group started abusing him angrily.
The Buddha listened patiently while the stranger vomited all his anger.
Then he asked, 'If someone gives you a gift, and you refuse to accept it, with whom does the gift remain - you or the other person?'
'With the other person, of course! Any fool can see that', said the man angrily.
'Now', said Buddha, 'If I refuse to accept your abuse and your anger, where will it go? Who is going to suffer with it?'
The man was so shocked that he just fell silent.
His anger was gone. He was suddenly in the space of pure listening.
Into that space of listening, Buddha then poured the teaching about taking complete responsibility for all the effects of one's actions.
Listen: you are responsible for all your actions, the reactions you attract from others and all the happenings of your life. When you become aware of your words and thoughts, and understand how they impact your life, you will naturally become aware of your actions and their effects as well.
That is why I say, integrity will automatically teach you responsibility. Integrity is not just a simple vow, a simple word or a simple thing. It is all about ironing out your thinking and aligning it.
When you clean your inner space with the power of integrity, you will realize that you are resopnsible for all the contradictions, conflicts and confusions you carry inside. You will realize that even the 'accidents' happening in your life are attracted by you. Whether it is wealth, poverty, right or wrong - you attract everything - everything - into your life. You are responsible for everything happening in and around you. You are responsible for your very life!
Make a list of everything that you have attracted into your life – wealth, poverty, right, wrong, accidents, success – everything.
Now contemplate and write down how you have been responsible for attracting them into your life through your thoughts, words or actions.