52. Maturity of Character.
A gentleman had finished engineering in I.I.T. and was employed in U.S.A. He was earning in lakhs. While talking to me he said: My father, who made me touch the zenith of achievements, is a fool. I am also a fool.
I asked: Why do you say so? He replied: My father dreamt right from my childhood, that I should become a very big man. And to make that really come true, he spared no efforts at all and educated me. He also motivated me for my success. He toiled for 25 long years. He rested only when I got a job in the U.S. Then only he got time to live his own life. Only after that did we come to know that while we have accumulated what all are needed for life, we have not at all learned to live the life in this world. For the question, 'What does life mean?' the reply we get is only, 'We are fools'. Please tell us a way for this.
Be sure of one truth. All your efforts and labour can only make your body to be alive. They cannot make even your mind to come to life.
- Surpassing your body, to make your mind and your conscious feelings to come to life and to make them flourish, you must get maturity of mind. You have to separately strain yourself and work hard for that.
- Getting maturity of character is one of the very important steps for an ordinary man to get enlightenment.
- Anger, Affection, Fear
- Maturity of character is only the ability to have these feelings under one's own control and to handle these in such a way so as not to get affected himself or to affect others.
- Enlightenment is only the mental maturity in going beyond the feelings, and making one self as well as others live in a state of rapture.
- The first and foremost action one has to take in order to pass beyond all sorts of behavioral aberrations and obtain maturity of character is to list out the extent to which a person himself as well as others have been affected by mental aberrations.
The very act of 'making out a list' will make the mental and behavioral confusions disappear and it will nurture mental maturity. Consciously make out a list and see. You will understand.
A collection of interesting conversations between two persons...
Sunday: Evening 6.30 (On the phone)
'What boss! You don't care for me nowadays. If you have any work you come to my house. Otherwise, you don't bother about me at all. Speak for some more time, boss! I would like to go on and on hearing your voice.'
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Monday: Morning Time 7.30 (On the phone)
'You stupid, reduce the volume of the T.V. I can't hear in the phone at all. Who is speaking? Oh! Is it you? OK, Ok, whatever it is, we can talk it over today evening at 6 after I come home. I will disconnect now.'
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Monday: Evening. Time 6.00 (On the house)
'Oh! Come, come, come. We should be fortunate and blessed for good people like you to come to our house.'
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Wednesday: Afternoon Time 3.00 (on the way)
'Sir, don't be dragging on. Say exactly and to the point, what you want to say... I have got a lot of work to do.'
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Friday: Morning Time 8.00 (On the phone).
'Hello! Is healer Ananda Sridhar available...
Oh Sridhar, right from morning, I was thinking about you only. I would like to see you...'
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Saturday: Evening. Time 7.00 (In the Ananda healing centre)
'I came here thinking that you will give me some consoling words. What is it you are saying? "I" only is the reason for all problems, you are saying. Keep your Vedanta with yourself only. Leave me alone.'
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Sunday: Evening. Time 6.30 (On the phone)
'What boss? What? Are you angry with me? Excuse me boss! Yesterday, in some bad temper, I spoke so. Please be talking some more time boss! I like to hear your voice continuously.
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All these different faces and talks were all that of one single individual Thandavamurthy and these were towards the person Ananda Sridhar, a healer of Dhyanapeetam and all these in just one week.
Is it surprising?
If you are surprised... that means you are not aware of the truth that...