Judgments should not determine your way of life.
Having decided the judgment already, if arguments are started how would the hearing of that case be?
Can the opposite part win it at all? Will his justice and equity stand at all...? Think...
It is very easily possible for us to do the assessment of a person.
For a wife, who has come to a conclusion that her husband is an 'impatient person', even his affectionate talk would appear as tentative and as acting only.
For a husband who has concluded that his wife is an 'avaricious' person, even her affectionate talk would appear as a rehearsal to achieve her next material object.
We stamp every one like this as belonging to some type or the other, and make them seated in some corner of our minds.
The more and more the judging is done, true love of persons is being mocked at.
Have you not felt heart-broken that, in spite of your having acted many times truthfully those were just ignored and discarded? It is only this type of judging which are responsible for those moments to arise.
If our conversations are observed keenly we would be going on stacking evidence just to prove that what we had stated in the first instance is correct.
In case we had expressed a different idea, then our talk also would be going on around that idea only.
Not only while talking, even while thinking, you are only creating judgments continuously. In your life you run after these judgments and follow them.
Life begins to be a struggle. The direction in which you run your life is not decided by you. What decides it is nothing but judgments!
Judgments are fences of thorns. It will prick others too. It will also imprison you.
Until the thorny fences leave, you cannot even think about either your own independence or the closeness of others.
If you want happy times to approach, the quality of judging must be rooted out and thrown away. The quality of judging is one such thing which should be burnt out as it gets formed itself.
Leave away the nature of judging and begin to live and see. The truth that you are living only in the midst of paradise will become an experience.
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