Understand guilt first
Understand guilt first. Anyone who wants to have a control over you, first instills guilt in you. They make you feel you are inferior in some fashion. Then automatically you follow what they are saying.
Society knows to control only through guilt. Rules are alright for children and it is good to start with rules. But it is important that as you grow, you are led by your own intelligence. When you integrate yourself, guilt cannot be instilled in you and you become intelligent also.
Actually, an incident itself does not cause guilt in you. The effect of the incident is what causes the guilt in you.
People blindly pass down rules from one generation
The moment you fulfill your imagination, you are engulfed by guilt. to another and with that is passed the guilt also. Like a crown, the guilt is passed down – grandfather to father, father to son, son to grandson and so on.
All the beauty products tell you repeatedly that you are not good enough. You start feeling guilty about your own inadequate body. What do you do? You go and buy their products and use them. You automatically fall under their control. Once you use them, you are engulfed with one more feeling of guilt, 'Did I go through all this trouble for this after all?' The moment you achieve something, the first feeling that engulfs you is guilt.