Give your child the ultimate security🔗

Question: My spouse and I argue a lot. Will this hurt our children? What can we do to avoid hurting them?

Arguing is nothing but being unable to come to terms with the other person. It is not that you are unable to come to terms with the situations. No! Understand, you are not able to come to terms with the other person.

You are asking, how this will hurt our children?! It is going to bring tremendous damage and hurt to your children. One great thing which happened in my life was - I never saw my father abusing my mother either verbally or physically. Of course he never abused her physically. Very rarely there will be some verbal fights. But he will always make sure it never happens in front of us.

I tell you, I still feel grateful to my father for this one thing. Just because of that, I can see very clearly, how beautifully my inner space got built and how much of respect I have for both of them. See, respect for the parents means respect for the one thousand and one good things they taught you. This was what gave me the courage to break the parental conditioning.

When kids see parents fighting, they lose trust on life and their risk-taking ability is broken. They are put into the fear psychosis of oh, if I don't behave, I may not have a place here. To run a home, you need to give a complete safe and secure feeling. Don't argue in front of the kids.

Children lose respect for life and experience incompletion with life itself when they see parents fighting! When they carry the wound of seeing parents fighting, they feel incomplete with the father or the mother and they carry so much of incompletion inside them towards life. When they see both of you sharing a beautiful love, they feel so fulfilled, they feel complete and fulfilled.

You are not an island

Please understand, a human being is not an island as you constantly believe, and as you are made to believe.

You are not an island. If the water you drink is poisoned, it is not just you who is going to die; if air you breathe is poison, it is not only you who is going to die. We are not islands, but we constantly live in the delusion that we are islands.

Ignorance is nothing but believing you are an island. Knowledge means understanding you are connected to everything. Enlightenment means realizing you are everything.

Any thought trend, philosophical system or education trend, whether it is Dvaita, Vishishtadvaita, Shaiva siddhantha, Communism, Judaism, anything that is built on the concept that an individual is an island has no basis. It is built on delusion. It is built on illusion.

Any thought trend built on the concept that you are an island reduces the breadth of your vision, and finally makes you completely blind.

Do not think that just because you are able to see, you have vision! Seeing is different, vision is different. Ability to receive this information, process it and present it in front of your consciousness is seeing. Consciousness taking cognizance and responding is vision! Capturing of data by your eyes is only seeing; it is not vision!

You are not an island. That is the first truth you need to realize. You cannot just grasp something and hold on to it. Anything you get is just like a huge ice cube in your hand – including enlightenment!

If you go on radiating enlightenment, and making the people who are around you also enlightened, you are saved and you save others. If you just hold on to it tightly and say, 'It is only for me, me, me!' the ice will melt down and you will be left with only empty hands.

Please understand: anything in your life, whether it is wealth or enlightenment, unless you share it, you will not have it.

Why do you think so many people become poor? They fear to share their power, they fear to share their time, they fear to share their life. The fellow who is afraid to share his time is a failed shudra, the fellow who is afraid to share his power is a failed kshatriya, fellow who is afraid to share his wealth is a failed v*aishya*, fellow who is afraid to share enlightenment is a failed brahmana.

I am using these four words - brahmana, kshatriya, vaishya, shudra - for sake of your understanding. When I say vaishya, I mean entrepreneur. When I say Kshatriya, it means a person empowered. When I say shudra, I mean a person who is supposed to work and execute. When I say brahmana, I mean a person who is supposed to be living enlightenment

When you don't share, you destroy yourself. Go on sharing, sharing, sharing. It will culminate in enlightenment.

Pornography is violence

I tell you, humanity without pornography will be violence-free. When you are infused with so much passionate desire through the pornographic visuals, but you cannot live up to it through your body as you see in the visuals, the whole passion gets converted into violence and gets stored in your body.

When passion gets recorded as violence into the bodies of many people, human beings start suffering with so much violence. Whether it is domestic violence or violence as a country, understand that violence can be created just because of porn. Porn is going to take away your joy, your love, your real life. It is going to make you plastic, pseudo. Only if you have this insight and understanding, you will be able to get out of this desire to watch porn. Unless you understand this, no pranayama can help, no meditation can help, no technique can help you. The worst suffering you can have in your life is having the mind which is still jumping when the body is not able to jump. If you can, understand what I am saying! In the old age, if your body is not jumping and your mind is not able to do anything to stop jumping, that is hell. It happens just because of pornography.

If you want hell in your old age, you can add porn to your mind now. Just like how, if you add alcohol and smoking to your body now, you will have physical diseases in your old age, if you want mental ill-health in your old age, you can add porn to your mind now.

I am not teaching morality or spirituality, I am just telling you the plain health facts. Porn will make you sick in both ways, mentally and physically. It makes you sick and takes away the joy of the real person in your life.