Love is tremendous understanding
Your relationships have become too shallow. Relationships have nothing to do with sending love notes or making his lunch.
Forget about making lunch, it has nothing to do even with making love!
It is something beyond making love or lunch.
It is a tremendous understanding.
It is not even spending time together. It has nothing to do with getting in shape and dressing well. Many men suspect you if you suddenly get into shape and start
dressing well. They say, what happened to you? Do you have a handsome new boss?
If sending a love note or making lunch is seen as a way to strengthen your love, it only shows that both of you are sick with attention-need syndrome! How long you will be writing notes, making lunch, getting into shape, and dressing well to keep up your relationships?
First, bring some common interests into your relationship. Then raise that common interest to the basic understandings of life. When the common interest becomes a basic understanding of life, a common spiritual quest, only then the true relationship starts happening. That is the only way you will have a safe, happy, blissful relationship that will last into your old age.
Let your relationship be completely ripened, strong, based on friendliness and understanding.
I am a perfect bridge
17 April, 2012
Question: My mind still jumps here and there during the kriya and meditation, thinking about worries. I try not to think but still I am unable to control that. I fear that I am not performing well. Please help me Swamiji. I want to benefit a hundred percent from the Inner Awakening program.
As long as mind is there, it will jump. It is like an octopus trying to straighten all his arms using his own arms! The mind is like an octopus with 20 arms! So this octopus stretches his arms straight, one by one, but by the effort of trying to stretch one arm itself, the others are already folded! He has 20 arms and uses 10 arms to stretch the other 10 arms. But by the time 10 arms are straight, the other ten are already bent! They can become straight only when the octopus dies! This is what you are trying to do.
Mind jumping here and there and thinking about worries is its nature. I am telling you, however much you try not to think you will only have more and more troubles and problems. You are saying, 'I fear I will not perform.' Don't worry, whatever you can do, do it. Like when I say, inhale through the right nostril, do it. Do whatever you can do. From there, I will take you to subtler and subtler zones, and lead you to where you should be.
I have a perfect mechanism, a perfect system, to guide you. You just be authentic, that's enough. Do whatever you can do. The remaining is my responsibility. Only when you don't do what you can do, then I
cannot do anything. You just be authentic to your capacity. I will take care of the rest.
The Inner Awakening program is not like just dangling a carrot in front of you. It is a banana pushed inside your throat! So don't worry at all. I will take care. Only if it is just a dangling carrot, you need to put in your effort. No. I ensure that you open your mouth and I ensure that the banana is put inside. Even if I suspect that you will vomit it, I will use a crowbar to put it inside and push it down and digest it! All you need to do is wear your seatbelt, relax and enjoy. Seatbelt is the mala, the sacred necklace!
Guru is a person who develops a technology for you to move from where you are to where you should be. I cannot go on talking about where you should be, without looking at where you are. Same way, without looking at where you should be I cannot be talking about where you are. I am a bridge between where you are and where you should be. And I am a perfect bridge! Even if you think that you have the least possibility on the planet Earth for getting enlightened, don't worry, even then I will be a bridge for you! So you just do what you can do. Okay?