Marriage is for Enlightenment!
Listen and let the Master talk
05 April, 2012
A devotee was sharing with me yesterday that he was feeling that he married the wrong person. He was asking if he should move out of the commitment.
I told him, 'No. Marriage is such a sacred institution. When you commit, all doors should be closed except the possibility of your transformation. You should not even think of any other doors. I will only recommend transformation from your side, rather than changing the other person - because you already committed.'
When God understood that he cannot be continuously available for everybody, he created a system for everybody to evolve: that is marriage! It is your own ideas which make the other person look wrong. Only your fantasies make the other person look wrong. You need to understand and alter your patterns. Look into the depths of your being and transform you.
When you have anger or fear in your relationship, it means that the love has reduced. Now it is time for you to work and develop that trust which is beyond love, and transform yourself.
Please understand, when you marry, for the first one year, enjoy the romance. Once the honeymoon is over, start the process of enlightenment, transforming yourself.
From the second year, use the whole thing for enlightenment.
25 August, 2012
Bhagavad Gita literally means 'Song of God'. It records the teachings of the great incarnation Bhagavan Sri Krishna, to his disciple Arjuna.
But do you know, Chapter 6, verse 1 of the Bhagavad Gita is the first chapter in which Bhagavan starts talking! Please understand, until then Arjuna was talking and Bhagavan was only responding.
It is like people coming to me with their agitation, doubts, questions. After all their doubts have been answered, they ask, THE SUPREME PONTIFF OF HINDUISM BHAGAWAN SRI NITHYANANDA PARAMASHIVAM, do you have anything else to tell me?
That is when I start talking; advising them, guiding them. Till then, I am only clearing their doubts, their confusions, showing them where they are wrong.
All my conversations, all my answers to your questions and your doubts, are just ways of showing you where you are wrong. Only if I am talking on my own, I am guiding you with what is right.
Please understand, there is a big difference between telling what is wrong and telling what is right.
Only when the disciple is tired of all the questions and doubts, and he says, 'Come on, you tell whatever you want to tell', can the Master begin talking.
Awaken the Sacred Feminine
17 September, 2010
Understand the whole subject of how to awaken the sacred feminine. All three are unique words. Only feminine energy can be called 'sacred'. Have you ever heard of sacred masculine? Only feminine energy can be given the title sacred, because when it is awakened, it does so much in your system.
It has nothing to do with your gender. That's an important thing. The gender being male or female has nothing to do with it. It is something to do with your inner quality.
The next word is 'awaken'. Only the sacred feminine energy needs to be awakened. You already have too much masculine energy! The whole world is suffering with too much masculine energy. If politics had been handed over to women, so much good would have happened to human society, to human civilization. If it had been handed over to women, it would have been a completely family-based civilization. So naturally everybody would have had their basic needs met. All the basic needs would have been supplied to the whole world. Only the feminine energy needs to be awakened. Only that can be called as sacred.
Let me define the sacred feminine.
Sacred feminine means extraordinary creativity in any field. Why it is associated with the word 'feminine'? Because by nature, without any choice, all women experience that creativity when they carry a child. Even if they are unconscious about the feminine energy, when they carry a child, their body is made to experience the sacred feminine.
The sacred feminine part is an extraordinary energy. If you are mature enough, your being can also experience the sacred feminine creativity. All enlightened beings carry that feminine grace, because they have awakened and experienced the sacred feminine energy.
Meditate on sacred feminine energy: mother energy,
healing energy. It can be a very powerful process and a very beautiful meditation technique.
The Vedic tradition uses this technique: whether you carry male body or female body, just remember yourself as the Cosmic Mother. That's all. Nothing else. Just remember yourself as Devi.
You may think, what if my body language and everything becomes feminine? What will I do? Don't worry. It will only just add juice to you, grace to you. Same way, when you remember the Cosmic Mother, if you are carrying the female body, it will suddenly add the masculine courage in you. For men it will add the grace of the mother; for women it will add the courage of the mother.
22 March, 2012
At the end of your life, is your mind going to judge whether you are a success or failure, or is your heart going to judge whether you are a success or failure?
Understand, only your heart is going to judge. Your mind loses its power on you. When you are doing the final calculation of your life, your heart is going to be the judge, not your mind. If your mind is the judge, all the rich fellows should have a complete, satisfying death, because as far as the mind is concerned, money, status, enjoyment, beauty, this, that and everything - it was a great life.
If the mind is going to be the judge, then all the fellows who are rich, who asked for all these things: good husband, amazing kids, wonderful house, and good friends and family, should be having a very fulfilling death, a very satisfying end. But that is not happening.
I tell you, it is your heart which is going to be the judge of whether your life is satisfied, complete, or if you wasted your life. The heart is the one which is going to tell whether you are fulfilled or not. The mind is just a prostitute. It will just play any side it wants. One small reason is enough for the mind to completely tumble you, make you lose the very basis of your life.
Why do you think millions of people commit suicide? Because when the mind tumbles you, makes you imbalanced, you do some things impulsively which you can never repair after that. Suicide is always the decision of the mind, never of the heart. People say, Oh, his heart is broken, so he committed suicide. No. His mind is broken, so he committed suicide. It is never the heart.
Whenever you have a dilemma between the mind and the heart, always choose the heart, because even if you are a failure as per the mind, the heart is the one who is going to make the judgment at the end of your life.
Are you really Alive?
28 February, 2012
I will define the term living human being. Living human being should be a person who wakes up like a flower - with courage, strength and confidence to explore the new leaf of life, explore so intensely, take such strong risks, that by night you should just wither away; that is fall asleep easily. Next morning, wake up ready to explore life again.
In the night, if you are not withering away, it means you have not used all your confidence; you have not used all
your courage. By night you should just wither away. It means taking all extreme decisions and steps, living in utter insecurity - this is enlightenment! I tell you, living in utter insecurity is living enlightenment.
Life is for the people who are ready to exhaust their courage. As long as you are afraid to exhaust your courage, the stored courage becomes sickness, the stored confidence becomes cowardice. Stored confidence which is not used in action is cowardice. Unused courage which is not used in your action is sickness, disease.
When your heart says, I am comfortable and very happy, stop walking. Change the route. Your heart should be beating – oh, I am taking a risk! - then walk. It is with this constant beating that your heart is beating. If not, your lungs may work, but your heart does not work. You may breathe, but you do not live.