Instructions🔗

In any situation where you experience some inner conflict, just ask yourself, Am I being a wall or a door right now?

Chances are, you will find that you are being a wall! Most of the time, it is not the external situation that is causing the conflict. It is your level of receptivity and openness to the situation.

This technique is not for judging yourself, it is only for becoming more aware of your own state.

As you work with it, you will become more and more conscious of the subtle fluctuations of mood you go through all the time. You become conscious of your mental patterns.

Just being aware can help you make the transition from being a wall to being a door, at least most of the time!

Once you understand this constant flux inside yourself, you will be able to see and understand that it happens in others also.

Then you will know when exactly another person can be approached for a discussion; when he will be open to you and when he won't!

The problem is, we always see others from the outside, never from the inside. Once you see the same pattern playing in others as well, you begin to notice the mood, not the person. You get out of the blame-game.

With this simple awareness, you will find yourself becoming less judgmental and more compassionate in your relationships.

BEYOND MIND