Stop your negative self-fulfilling prophecies!
How does negativity take root in you?
Listen: any negativity can only become strong in you if you constantly remember your past experiences through the filter of failure. They become your thinking habits. Negativity cannot grow in your inner space, cannot have power over your inner space, cannot have strength in your inner space, if your past memories are not continuously supplied as evidence.
It is through your unconscious commitment to your thinking habits and behaviours that you keep the negativity alive in your system. Again and again you supply your thinking with negativity as evidence of your limited story of you and your possibility. You create a small life and look around at all the 'proof' that exists to support the negative beliefs you carry about yourself.
For example, let's say you have the negative thought pattern, 'I'm not good enough'. You continuously support that belief by judging yourself by what you haven't accomplished; what is missing and what has yet to be done. You have a long 'To Do' list, which is a burden to you; you spend more time worrying about it then actually creating and following a plan to successfully complete it all.
This creates a vicious cycle or self-fulfilling prophecy of failure that proves your idea that you are not good enough! It is as if you take a weed, find a special plot of land for it, fertilize the soil, plant it, water it regularly and then after a few years wonder, 'How did this garden become so full of weeds?'
When you become integrated, the first thing you will understand is that your past failures are not actually failures in the way that you think. Your failures do not make you a failure! The number of times you remember your failures is the real problem, not the failures themselves. If you just learned from the situation and moved on, everything would be fine. But instead, you are caught brooding over it, sometimes for years! There is an emotional hangover from the event, so it doesn't leave your system. It is like you go on vacation for only one or two days, but for months afterward you show those photographs to everyone and keep on enjoying them! You bring so much importance to those memories, that it makes the vacation look too big for you – much bigger than it actually was!
In a diary or book, write down your most frequently occurring negative thoughts and ideas about yourself and life. Repeat this task for the next four days. Each day, just write down everything without editing and close your book.
At the end of five days, open the book and read what you have written. You will realize how you are replaying the same negative thoughts in your inner space!