Tune in to your peak identity🔗

Listen: your mamakara has experience-power. Your ahankara has expression-power.

Your mamakara has the experience-power - experiencing what you think and feel as you. Your ahankara has expression-power - declaring yourself and asserting yourself. When there is lack of integrity, both of them are separate, and when you are integrated, both of them are the same.

Again and again, strengthen your mamakara with the qualities you project as ahankara. Strengthen your ahankara by using all the thinking -power that mamakara has. Integrate both of them - whatever you think of as you, and whatever you project as you - and you will become that! Infuse all the qualities of ahankara into your mamakara. If you are declaring to the world you are strong and intelligent, make that your mamakara too.

Aligning your mamakara to your ahankara is integrity, because what you project as you will always be higher than what you believe as you. Aligning your ahankara with anyakara is taking responsibility. Continuously expanding your mamakara and ahankara and fulfilling anyakara is authenticity.

Exercise to align your Inner Image and Outer Image

Make two columns in your workbook titled INNER IMAGE and OUTER IMAGE.

In the first column, make a list of your top ten Inner Images - beliefs you have about yourself eg. I am weak, I am friendly, I am unlucky, etc. In the second column, write the corresponding Outer Image that you project to others. For example, you may project yourself to be strong, friendly and lucky.

Now compare each Inner Image and Outer Image you have noted down. If both are the same, ignore that point and move to the next.

Wherever there is a conflict, start tuning your Inner Image and Outer Image - what you perceive as you and what you project as you to others - by always choosing the higher idea. For example, wherever your Outer Image is higher than your mamakara, decide to tune your mamakara to your Outer Image. Don't reduce what you project yourself to be for others, increase what you perceive yourself to be for you. Let the benchmark be what you project.

Repeat this for each point. Compare both identities. Whatever qualities are best in both, choose those. Draw a star against all your best inner perceptions. Draw a star against all your best outer projections.

If there are some great qualities in your Inner Image, you need to raise your Outer Image to match that. If there are some great qualities in the Outer Image you project, you need to raise your Inner Image to match that which you project. Use the worksheet to continuously tune yourself to your peak identity.

Are you responsible for others' expectations?

Many people ask me, 'Swamiji, I understand that I am responsible for what I feel as me, and how I project myself to others. But why should I take the responsibility for others' expectations from me?'

Listen!

I wanted all of you to understand a very subtle truth.

You are responsible even for what others believe you to be for them.

Whether you realize it or not, you are continuously, subtly, co-operating with others' perceptions about you, so you become responsible for them. For example, you may be thinking of yourself as an ordinary man, but you may project yourself to others as a great saint. Now, some people may believe you to be a saint, some may think you are an ordinary man, and some others may believe you to be a fraud! But for each one's belief, you are responsible, because you subtly cooperate with it.

A girl may unknowingly respond to all the signals of a boy through her body language. But when he approaches her, she says, 'I never encouraged you!' You may not be saying anything in words, but even if you are subtly co-operating in any way with the other's expectation, you become responsible for it.

In marriage, for example, there are many vows which are not verbally expressed, but are implicitly understood. When you marry somebody, you become responsible for fulfilling those commitments also.

You are responsible even for what others believe you to be for them.