Your desires are reflected in others
This is an even more mystical truth!
We are all separate only at the level of the physical body. As you go deeper and deeper, we are all completely connected and part of one universal Consciousness. It is just one mass without any separation.
Some part of you, which is suppressed by you, which wants to realize itself – that part goes and sits in others' hearts and becomes their expectation about you, so that the suppressed part is realized. It is your own desire which becomes an expectation in the other person!
At the root of the mamakara, all of us are connected. So if you suppress the desire in one body, it simply comes out in another body. It is like this: if you squeeze the air out of one side of a balloon, the same air is going to rush to another side of the balloon and create a 'bump' there!
So, when you are not ready to listen to your own heart and expand in a certain direction, the Divine helps you by creating the same expectation in others, so that you can expand.
Please listen, you yourself are sitting in the inner consciousness of everyone who has expectations from you, and making them having that expectation! Some of your words, or your body language, is responsible for their having that expectation from you. Knowingly or unknowingly, you have given a commitment to them, for which you are responsible.
Until you understand this, you will be carrying your protest against others' expectations like a thorn in your flesh. The question Why Why Why Why Why Why Why? will be constantly going on inside you like an ambulance siren!
This one understanding will take away all the suffering and agitation you carry about fulfilling others' expectations.
Write down the several things you have done because of someone else's expectation, but later found that you have yourself longed to do the same, although you dared not make an attempt e.g. swimming in a pool forgetting your phobia; singing your favourite song in front of a crowd.
So what is making you feel powerless?
It is always others' expectations from you which makes you feel powerless. So today, I want you to meditate on the word 'anyakara'. Anyakara means what others believe as you, independent of what you project as you.
The effects of anyakara, whether good or bad, always surprise you – because you are usually never aware of what expectations you are subtly creating in others!
It is the confusion between your ahamkara and mamakara which is responsible for anyakara. If you are surprised by anyakara, there is some unconsciousness in you. Work on how you are responsible for anyakara.
I am neither surprised by a devotee who is ready to give his life for me, nor a devotee who is ready to take my life for his own purposes. I am complete with both, because I know the possibilities!
Today, contemplate on anyakara.
1. What are the sufferings you think are caused in your life by anyakara, which are independent of your ahamkara?
First, look at your life and pen down all the good and bad things that you feel happened in your life due to the expectations that others carry about you, which is independent of how you project yourself to them.
2. Now, see how you are responsible even for what others hold as you. For each incident, write the corresponding mamakara you have about yourself. For example, if someone has an expectation that you will take care of them financially, look in and see how you hold yourself for yourself. Do you feel yourself as rich, generous, compassionate? Something in your mamakara has triggered that anyakara in the other person.
Do this for all the anyakaras for which you feel you are not responsible.
A thread will emerge from this, where you can clearly see your own mamakara, and how you are responsible for others' anyakara for you.
3. Now, complete with all the anyakaras, and with the people who hold that anyakara for you. Restore your integrity and authenticity in all these relationships.