Kill the old way of living
You need to have the courage of authenticity before you give a word.
Integrity ensures that you keep your word. Authenticity ensures that you keep your word with enthusiasm. Authenticity brings excitement into your integrity, because it kills the old way of living and thinking. Authenticity is death for your boredom, your lazinessand your cunningness. It brings an intense excitement for life. It is an intense commitment to live life at its peak.
In the Shaiva tradition, devotees apply sacred ash on their forehead as a declaration of their commitment to the ultimate Truth. The devotee commits - Everything but this is only ash, because it is going to turn into ash one day. So all these things of the world, which are going to become ash one day, are not my life's ultimate purpose. My strategy for my life, even my strategy for my relationships and my success, everything, should come only from authenticity.
Applying the sacred ash is a constant reminder to base all decisions on this one thing - authenticity to the Ultimate.
Write down all the occasions when your thoughts, words and actions have been authentic; recall how much trust you were able to build in people around you during such times.
List the occasions when you stretched your inner image to the level of outer image, and mark the ones where you experienced completion because of this.