Joy of stretching
Others' expectation from you is not your enemy. Please understand, any expectation from others is only a wake-up call which you set!
The alarm is not your enemy; YOU requested it to wake you up. So when others have an expectation from you, bow down to them as the embodiment of the antaryami, the innermost Self, who is waking you up!
How many of you, when you started stretching yourself to others' expectations about you, realized that it was exactly your expectation about you also?
You are travelling on the path of self-realization. As long as you think you are stretching just because of others' expectations from you, you will carry a continuous irritation, agitation, heaviness.
When you realize that this is also your expectation about yourself, you will have fulfilment, joy of vairagya (sacrifice), joy of tyaaga (renunciation).
You may ask, 'How can renunciation be joyful?'
I tell you, if renunciation or sacrifice is done because of another's expectation, it will only be painful. When you realize that you are fulfilling your own expectation about you, then it is no more anyakara, it is mamakara! Now nobody else is forcing you. It is your own choice.
I tell you from my own experience - when I decided to fulfill others' expectations about me, I realized that it was also my own expectation about me.
When you fulfill others' expectations about you, and realize this is also your own expectation about you, you reach the space of self-realization.
Today, commit to fulfill everyone's expectations about you, with the understanding that it is your own expectation about you. You will see the resistance and suffocation simply fall away.
Completion with anyakara makes you God
Authenticity gives you a deep and vast clarity about Life.
With authenticity, because there is no more space for unconscious living, you will always be aware of the causes and effects that are playing in your life. You will be aware of the possible consequences of your actions. When you are authentic, life can never bring shocks to you.
Only when you have the clarity that nothing can take you by surprise, will you have the guts to take the responsibility for everything in your life. When you don't carry the fear of being exploited by life, you will have the courage to enter into others' life with conscious clarity, and stretch yourself to transform others. With authenticity, you will never give up on people.
Anyakara is the expectation that Life has of you – in the form of other people, situations, events, actions. When you are complete with anyakara, life can never bring shocks to you.
The history of Lord Shiva describes how he swallows the poison that was going to destroy the world. It is a tremendous sacrifice, but Shiva makes it, because that is what the world expects of him. Poison is not a surprise to Shiva, because he is complete with the anyakara of the world - even if it seems unjust to us!
Completion with anyakara is where people miss authenticity. It is easy to be authentic with mamakara and ahankara, because both are in your control. With anyakara, you never know what might be demanded of you!
I tell you - if you are complete with anyakara, you can declare you are God! You can authentically declare you are God.
When you are authentic, life can never bring shocks to you.