Q: I usually seem to get upset with my loved ones, can I use unclutched to break this cycle?
A: yes then naturally you will not get upset. See all your so called loved ones are nothing but intimate enemies. That's the truth, so if you are unclutched, all these things will disappear.
Q: In the Gita when Krishna says worship me only…
A: You should understand, when Krishna says this, he doesn't mean that six feet Krishna with that peacock feather with all the girls around. Not that Krishna, let you be very clear, when He says worship me, you will reach me, He means the Parabrahma Krishna, the Cosmic form of the Lord and not the Vasudeva Krishna, the physical form of the son of Vasudeva.
Actually I had this problem once. I was invited by one of these Krishna devotees groups to their conference. I went there just to give them my respects. They started asking me, do you believe in Gita.
I said yes, I respect Gita; it is our scripture, that's the ultimate book.
They said, then why do you worship Shiva?
I asked them what is wrong, what has happened to you? Why should I not worship Shiva?
Then they started quoting the same thing as you asked here, you should worship Krishna. They quoted all these sloka and they said, Krishna says, only if you worship me you will achieve me. Then why are you worshiping Shiva?
Krishna means the Parabramha Krishna, the embodiment of the formless cosmic energy. The embodiment of Rama, Krishna, Shiva are all one and the same.
Then the started arguing, no, no, it is Vasudeva Krishna , it is not Parabramha Krishna, who you should worship. How do you know they are two different things?
I told them an important incident that happened after the Bhagavad Gita. After the war is over, after a few months, Krishna and Arjuna both are traveling together. Arjuna says, 'Krishna, you told me so many beautiful things in the Gita, but it was in the battle field. I don't remember anything now. Can you please repeat all of them once more? I'll note them down'.
Krishna says, 'Not only you, I too have forgotten because it was spoken in the high ecstasy of enlightenment'.
He says this very word; 'it was spoken in the high ecstasy of enlightenment', or Brahman consciousness. Then he says whatever I remember I will tell you, please note down. Whatever he repeated the second time, the little bit, whatever he can remember, is what is called Anu Gita.
When I quoted this incident to show that Krishna was the Parabrahma Krishna when He had the Gita dialogue with Arjuna, those guys started saying, 'we thought you are a young swami but you are well read'. We shouldn't compete with you, we shouldn't have problems with you.
You see it is just a fanatic idea, Krishna with the peacock feather, and two or three ladies around, that is not the only Krishna. Krishna means the embodiment of the ultimate consciousness.