Integrate your thoughts, words and actions
Actually, we have been trained to think that only if we work and experience pain in some form, we are worthy of happiness. So we run until we get pain; we run until we hit the fence. We are so used to the concept of a fence that even if we are told that there is no fence, no boundary, we are not ready to believe it. We run and somehow hit a fence and feel pain; then we stop, satisfied in having felt pain. We always feel that we have to go through anxiety and worry in order to be worthy of being showered.
There are some other people who create worries for themselves and then drink to forget the worries! This is a very common thing today. It is something like this: a pig is not able to bear the smell of its own habitat and so plunges its nose inside it to escape from it. You think you have beaten all your worries by drinking, when in reality you have actually plunged headlong into more of it.
We want something but we work towards creating something contradictory to it..This is what I mean when I say you should integrate your thoughts, words and deeds, otherwise you will create contradictory results in your life.
A small story:
An unwelcome visitor came to a man's house.
The man screamed to his wife who was inside the kitchen to bring coffee for the visitor.
The wife screamed back that there was no coffee in the house and that there was no money to buy it either.
The husband got angry and started scolding his wife and finally gave her a slap for not being able to serve coffee.
The wife started crying.
The visitor saw what was happening and slowly got up and went away.
The wife wiped her tears and triumphantly told the husband, 'Did you see that? I pretended to cry and sent him away!' The husband replied, 'Well! I pretended to be angry with you and made you cry!'
The visitor joined them, 'I pretended to walk away and I have now come back!'
Our thoughts are different from our words, our words are different from our actions, so we invite contradictory things into our lives continuously! Ramakrishna Paramahamsa says, 'Uniting our thoughts and words is like doing penance.' But what do we do? We edit our thoughts and bring them out as words. There is so much calculation that goes on inside before the words come out. We see 'profit and loss' and go into the future to analyze before we start talking. Our personality never gets integrated because of this and we remain fragmented.
People ask me how I am able to talk for hours together without any preparation. You see, I talk the truth as it is, spontaneously, that's all. I am not worried about exposing the truth! I never edit my words. For me, thinking is talking. For you, first thinking happens; then editing is done on it and only then comes talking. The innocence is lost in the whole process and you are caught with so many words also.
You are able to listen for hours together to me only because I am talking spontaneously. Otherwise, you will get restless. The fact that you are here without being bothered about the time passing by is enough proof for what I am telling you.
When spontaneity happens, the flow happens and so it is interesting. Otherwise, you stagnate in a one-track mind.
A small story:
A man was trying hard to sleep but could not, because his neighbor's dogs were barking persistently.
This scene remained unchanged for a few nights.
He finally decided to talk to the owner about it.
He went to his house the next day and complained to him about it.
The neighbor was unmoved and said, 'Nothing I can do about it. What do you plan to do?'
The man replied, 'Well, tonight I will tie the dogs in my backyard and then you will know what it is!'
Just think what foolishness it is to do what the man suggested! He is again and again going into the matter with a one-track mind. How will he find a solution? When you are spontaneous, you will never be challenged for even a moment. You will come back with a solution instantly. When you are spontaneous, you will simply jump off any cliff and build your wings on the way down!